How are we building people of tomorrow?
We start with the premise that ‘sooner rather than later’ is best when we look at developing strong individuals for the future. We will also agree that parents and schools are the best arena in which we can develop and enhance a child’s abilities at an early age.
I will presume that we all agree that the idea of combined effort and starting early is embraced by all; however the pathway is curvy and arduous. Societal messages continuously espouse that health, mental wellbeing, high achievement levels and success for everyone should be our aim. These are all great messages: how do we get there? Research is showing us that children today are not very resilient, they do not take risks easily, they look for safety nets. Confidence and optimism is not always the ‘go to’ for many.
We know that we need to develop strong personal qualities for future success. Future leaders and society members, specifically the children of this century, will need to be flexible, confident, brave and search for challenges; they will need to strive for excellence and not perfection. Making mistakes and looking for alternative solutions, will be the best way to move forward using an enquiring mind. Collaborating and using other’s help and abilities will increase own capacity and success.
It then stands to reason that providing children with choices (appropriate for age and capability), providing ways to be responsible for own actions; allowing consequences to determine success or failure in decision making; trusting our children to think for themselves and find alternative solutions to own problems is most definitely a good start in building the adult of tomorrow. Being a parent or teacher that does for the child what they are more than capable of doing on their own, is a recipe for failure.
“Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.”
Tips for today:
- Start early – infancy
- Be aware of what your child can do on their own
- Let them fail and help them find solutions to repair the problem
- Never fight the battle they can manage
- Allow your child to be sad as well as happy